So its been six months. Lots has happened since last we talked. My perfect life has really changed. Yall..never take your perfect life for granted. My then perfect life now pretty much sucks. I dont mean sucks as in i am destitute and struggling or anything quite so dramatic..but I am not really living a life anymore. My relaxed pace of Mississippi, as backwards as it was, is totally over. Its all 90 or nothing here in Dallas. Yesterday I actually had a teenage boy block me in a parking lot just to be a jackass. I am totally serious. He refused to move. I had to call the cops. It took everything I had to not get out of my car and kick his smart little ass. I am not even kidding yall. 
And my tub is gone. No more jetted tub baths. The tub in our rental house is not even insulated, the water turns ice cold before the tub even fills. I cry every time I try. I know, poor me right? Well, it’s the little things in life that make me happy, so don’t go putting your judgy pants on just yet, because I’m not done with my tale. Now I am working 12 hour shifts with a one hour commute that I have to get up at 3:30am for , and it takes 2 hours to get home at 6pm, so that bath would have been a tiny bit of heaven. My school plans are totally on hold now too. The NP school here wont accept credits from Old Miss with the exception of two classes, so basically a whole year wasted. Um, great. Now I am two years behind. Yes, I am whining. It’s taken me 6 months to even muster the mental strength to blog about how annoyed I am by being here in general. Really the only awesome thing I have so far is affordable Botox. So that is why I have changed the name of my blog. My husband, however is in pure heaven. He has his family down the road, his high school friends…he loves his job and he gets to work short days with no commute. It makes me hate him. I dont know how long I am gonna last here y’all. Pray for me.
Author: SUNBRIAR
Destiny is Calling..Did You Charge Your Phone?
There is a lot to be said about spontaneity. Heck, I love to do things on the fly. I love spontaneous trips and get-togethers and impulse buying. Heck I am pretty darn sure I am one of the reasons Amazon.com is doing so well. I have been accused of being an “early adopter”, meaning that I like to try things first, without peer review, uncharted waters, folks. Being spontaneous just makes life interesting.
However, there is a drawback to all or nothing spontaneity.. remember the story of the Ant and the Grasshopper? The grasshopper lounged around all summer while the ant worked hard to prepare for the coming winter. Well, I’m no Ant…but I am not the Grasshopper either…
I think I fall somewhere in the middle. That is what I believe life is about. BALANCE. There is an ideal called OOLA that is based on finding balance in all aspects of your life, to help you find peace and happiness. There is an actual website where you can take a quiz to see where you are lacking balance. Its not rocket science, but a tool that gets your mental gears going. Its about reflection and action to create some balance. What areas of your life are you neglecting? What in your life is stealing time and energy from other parts of your life that need attention? I had an OOLA score of 443. I won’t go into the whole process, but if you want to look into it, the link is here.
So. Balance. I think its important.
I think it allows you to achieve your real potential in life, and realize your real destiny. How can you possibly be what you are meant to be if you are distracted and caught up in the weight of an unbalanced life? Is your job making you miserable? Do you bring that misery home to your family, kick the dog, yell at the kids, then turn on the TV to just tune it all out so you can forget how much you hate your work? Are you surrounded by negative people who gossip and bring others down because they are lacking in self worth? Do you bathe in material things, or food, or drink to fill an empty hole that is an unbalanced spot on your wheel of life? Sound hokey? Give it 30 days.
Try to put the remote down. Stop taking calls from that Negative Nancy, tell her you are busy LIVING LIFE. Don’t buy anything that is not 100% NEEDED. Stop drinking. What ever is making you neglect the things you really love and care about, give them up for just 30 days. Is that terrifying? Cut it in half. Just give up,whatever it is, for two weeks. YOU CAN DO ANYTHING FOR TWO WEEKS. I know you can’t quit your job for two weeks ( unless its vacation..and that’s fun, right?) Take that time and look for another job, or formulate a plan on how to make your work situation better ( promotion, lateral move, different location). Seriously, Mike and I are in the throws of this now ( BOTH of us!). We are spending too much energy on work related stress. Hence, the move to Dallas.
What in life are you not prepared for? Retirement? Wow, that’s a big one, lets start smaller.. your 10 year reunion in 6 months? You gained 20lbs since high school and well, those Facebook pics are all from before your kids were born. Not every day can be Throwback Thursday, y’all. What are you going to do? You have 6 months. Find your balance for time for yourself. Change your diet. Eat better NOW. Don’t wait till the month before and starve. You have to channel the ANT. Tell the GRASSHOPPER to f-off. You know why? If you don’t, that last month you will neglect all other parts of your balance to lose that weight. Your family, health, mental peace.. all in the toilet.
That is just an example, people. This really applies to everything. You want to go to Disney? Set a goal. Put a date down on paper and make a plan on how you are going to pay for it. Heck, they make it easy now, Disney has a vacation fund that you can automatically deduct money per week, month, whatever to help you plan ( brilliant on their part by the way) financially for your trip. So you take out 200 bucks a month for a year and you are 2400.00 closer to your trip. Have a yard sale. Put change in a big jar. Sell young living oils, heck, whatever you can do to plan and achieve your goal, with balance. (see how I snuck the oils in there…and by the way, if you want to do that, PM me, ha)
Why did I post this today? I was reflecting in my jetted tub again ( yes. I take lots of jetted tub baths) and thinking about why life gets hard. We don’t plan. We have distractions that steal away our time and attentions from the important things. I am working on that myself. We should always be working on something that makes us better. I hear all these people saying YoLO! ( You Only Live Once). No. You live every day. You only die once. Unless you’re a cat., cause you know they have 9, and they are lucky like that…but us, we get to live every day until we die. Did you hear me?
YOU GET TO LIVE EVERY SINGLE DAY…UNTIL YOU DIE. That’s pretty deep. So prepare for life. Find a way to create balance and peace, and bring that home. Love your life.
Charge your life phone guys, because destiny is going to call, and it won’t leave a message.
The Magic Tub
So I have this great jetted tub. I never really loved baths, I mean, showers are super convenient and quick…baths, well, i get bored. But in this house, our tub is jetted..and it makes bubbles go crazy! Recently, I started a detox plan from Dr. Oz that involved taking a bath once a week with Epsom salt and baking soda (to draw out toxins and help eliminate bloat). It works pretty great! I also like to try an essential oil or two to elevate my mind. Tonight I tried Valor and Frankincense from Young Living Oils. Evidently, Frank is used to treat depression in Europe! I can see why, it really did elevate my mood after a long day at work. Honestly it makes me feel pretty euphoric.
I hardly ever get to take these awesome baths by myself. My “very best friend in the world”, AKA my daughter( who is 3) is a bubble bath glutton. If she hears the water running she immediately starts removing her clothes and running. Tonight we pretended Mr. Walrus( her plastic tub toy) was taking swimming lessons. She mimicked her swim teacher as she said, ” now, make your fat face!” What a darlin. I know these days wont last forever and I cherish them.
Our new house in Dallas doesn’t have a jetted tub. That makes me sad. One tradition I will miss, my swirly bubbly bath time with my bestie. We will have to find a new girl time activity for us when we get there…any ideas?
Time left here in Mississippi is growing short. Packing, planning, changing addresses…busy times ahead. I do have to say that moving often keeps you from becoming a pack rat! Sell it, donate it or throw it away…not a bad motto. It keeps you from getting too attached to material things.
What’s my advice for tonight? No matter how busy you are, no matter what is going on, take time for a bubble bath…even if you don’t like them. Most people hate wine and beer at first too.. Make some memories for your children to think of when they have tough times in life. Give them something simple to hold on to that will make them smile. One of ours will be bath time.
Livin an Easy Life..
So here I am, a 40 year old mother of a 3 year old. Life is not hard. Not even a little. Not really. I mean, don’t get me wrong, I am not living on a yacht in the South Sea, sipping on cucumber water. I work. I go to school part time. I take care of my family. It’s fun to me, a little bit of stress. It makes me feel alive. Maybe that is why I chose to work in the emergency room.
My husband is great. He is a good dad. He watches too much TV and hates to travel, but heck, he’s a 8.5/10 in my book. Did I mention he is handsome? My daughter is tall, and smart and loving. She is healthy. I really am blessed! Even with her meltdowns, toy army that creeps into every room of the house, whining, dirt spreading little feet… she is perfect. We have a great house. It has a jetted tub and a rain shower! It has a jetted tub, yall! I have found some pretty wonderful moments in that tub, especially bubble baths with my daughter and her 863 tub toys. We have a good car, pretty decent furniture that is a bit worn, and good extended family and health. Are you nauseated yet? Good. I have some serious advice for you. Go find your easy life!
What do I mean? How dare I? Well, my life has not always been easy! I was married once before that ended in divorce ( and I am Hubby’s 3rd wife!). I have miscarried more times than I can count. My dad killed himself the month before my daughter was born.. my eight years in the military kept me away from friends and family, holidays and birthdays..but you know what? I did not let the hard in life beat me. I was fired from a DREAM career with the FBI because I pissed off the wrong person. I made mistakes that cost me financially, emotionally and physically. You know what? I got back up, and brushed off the dirt. I found some inner strength to pull me out of the dark. Sometimes it took outside motivation, including therapy and medications, sometimes it just took some deep reflection. BUT I NEVER GAVE UP.
BRING IT, I said. I learned early that the struggle is what makes us who we are. It gives us character, understanding and compassion. Have you ever met that person who has had the easy life, with no worries or struggles? Their bland aren’t they? They might seem fab at first, because they have money or position… but they seem…hollow. There is no pain in there to change their shape to something. Something interesting, something you can relate to.
I wanted to blog. I’m lazy y’all. Really. I work in bursts, then retreat for a week or so. Don’t expect me to blog daily. I got stuff goin on. Did I mention we are selling this awesome house? Yep. We are transferring to Dallas next month. New job, new school, new life. I’m terrified and stoked all at the same time. We are makin this easy life…a little easier. So goodbye Old Miss. I got new colors! I will be wearin the Orange soon. Hook ’em Horns! Anyway, so I am blogging. Puttin it all out there for you to read, laugh at and maybe relate to. I’m not perfect. I cant spell. ( but I do have three undergrad degrees, and working on my second graduate degree) If you tough it out and stick with me, we can take a bit of this easy journey together. And I will share how to make your life just a little bit easier.
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